I guess the honeymoon phase is over and reality starts to set in. Frusfration and the sense of incompability is starting to take its toll to this relationship. Every relationship expert counsellor can easily tell that communication is key with every relationship, however I cant seem to communicate with her, its really hard to have a serious conversation with her as she doesn't seem to have the maturity to face a serious conversation.
Everytime I try to talk to her on serious matters, she dont talk back, dont even look at me. Its worse than talking to a wall, as its expected that a wall will have no reaction. But she doesn't have any sort of reaction, is she trying to avoid the problems around us?
I really need someone who can communicate and share my problems. She needs to grow up and take on more responsibility. She have to stop relying on her parents so much.
Is she really the one I can count on to share my future with? Is it too soon to think and talk about the future? Why is she has no sense of urgency, drive and ambition to achieve something in live? Is this because she knows that she doesn't have to? and that she have no worries as her parents is there? But her parents wont be around all the time, soon one day they wont be around to protect and help her. Why cant she grow up and at least achieve something in life?
I know I'm not in the position to judge her but I cant stop to think that she'll be the partner of my life, and also the mother of my child. If we were to be living without any support from anybody what so ever, I dont think I can provide her with the comfortable life she is getting right now nor do I believe she can stand living in those conditions with me. If we dont work this out together, I doubt we can have a future together. What can I do??
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perhaps she not yet ready for those things or she have her own problems to worried as well ?
Juz tell her/ discuss with her the problems. It wont get better u keep in heart n dont solve it.
Juz my 2cents :p
Cheer up dude~
Be more patient with her. I know she is too rely on her parents but i truly believe she will one day grow up and be your perfect partner. If she do not want to talk with you for this problem, try to maybe MSN chat with her? Try get this book - Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. That's helps for both of you!
hohoho... i wanna get tat book too. Got good reviews frm the magazine n newspapers
Pertaining to flickr2007's comment... hmm, i doubt she will reads it, unless it originally comes with some fashion, trendy related stuffs or photos inserted in the content of the book ;) That would helped. I guess, Justin would needs to work harder for it. We known her well, dear hoooo?
Going thru your blog, wanted to leave u a comment specially in this article.
Justin, i guess you had knew her well enough after being together for months & days, if you're looking at long term relationship, yes, you need to take up the responsibility of taking care of her. You cannot blame her by having such attitudes, she grows up in full protection from family, no obstacle, no hitch, no barrie in her life. But, looking at a bright side, she's optimistic in every ways. Overall, she is a sweet and lovely girl.. Guess, you've no doubt on this, right?
i've read this books and strongly recommend to all my friends. This really helps to maintain good relationships within couples/ husband & wife... teaches you how to handle problems, improve your communications and understanding. Most of the book shop do sell this book but some are out of stock. 'Kong' should read this as well.=P
Dear flickr, im reading a book called "The Secret", it's highly recommended too.. Nature of the book, the author faced frustration in her life and she almost collapsed, she then shared a story of her, and teaches you to know how you can have, be, or do anything you want. you will come to know who you really are, The true magnificence that awaits you in life. And life is in your hands. there is no such thing as hopeless situation, every single circumstances of your life can be changed. In this book, you'll learn how to use The Secret in every aspect of your life - money, health, relationships, happiness, and in every interaction you have in the world. By thinking positively, these are LAW OF ATTRACTION!
Thanks for your support & comments. I always believe a relationship needs two to work. Its like clapping, you need two hands to clap.
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